Written by Robert Strohmeyer
Reviewed by Jessica Roper, MBA,Ěýdirector of Career Services at °®ÎŰ´«Ă˝
While some people seem to fill conference rooms with their presence, easily inserting their point of view into business discussions, practicing effective communication skills in the workplace is simply not a trait everyone possesses.
According toĚýĚýand performed by Quantum Workplace and Fierce Conversations, about half of professionals areĚýreluctant to speak their mindsĚýat work. The study found that good communication leads to greater engagement at work, but fear or poor communication skills limit those effective conversations.Ěý
If you’re among the people who struggle to communicate in the workplace, or even if you just want to raise your profile and be heard more in the office, here are some approaches to improve your communication skills.
We all want to be heard in the workplace, but good communication requires being a good listener and an active participant. Workplace communication can often get lost in the shuffle of the day-to-day. Even worse, employees may lose sight of improving their communication skills or may take on the traits of a poor communicating colleague. Sometimes effective communication starts with listening and observing. When you want to be heard, this is how to get people’s attention.
Good listening skills are the cornerstone of effective communication. For most people, “good listening” means active listening.
Active listening is the practice ofĚýfully engagingĚýwith whomever is speaking. You pay close attention to their words, tone, expressions and body language as they speak, taking notes, and providing feedback in the form of responsive body language, facial expressions and occasional oral responses. Nodding when you agree with what’s being said; using facial expressions to appropriately show interest, surprise and amusement; and giving an occasional (but quiet) “yes” or “mm-hmm” so the speaker feels engaged can all help to increase your presence and visibility in the conversation.
Practicing active listening also primes others in the room to anticipate your contribution to the discussion, making itĚýeasier for you to chime inĚýwhen the moment is right.
In my experience as a leader and presenter, I always appreciate active listeners in the room.ĚýI tend to look for themĚýwhen I want to call on someone for additional perspective or feedback. Spotting active listeners at the table gives me confidence as a speaker that if I ask them for their take, I’ll encounter a vibrant response rather than a blank stare.
This isĚýespecially important in virtual meetings, where it can be difficult to see if others are engaged or checked out. On virtual platforms, active listening means having your camera on and showing the speaker that you’re engaged in all the ways described above.
Knowing when to communicateĚýin a meeting can be tricky, so it’s important to consciously assess how the conversation is flowing, how others are feeling and what the expectations are for the format of the discussion.
In formal presentations, it can be inappropriate to chime in with comments until a Q&A break. In workshop meetings, there is typically a greater expectation that everyone will just speak up when they have something to say.
When in doubt,Ěýraise your handĚý(physically or virtually) and wait to be noticed. Even in large rooms, this old classroom tactic tends to work pretty well, as a raised hand is a universal sign of requesting attention.
Waiting for a break to chime in can be challenging, especially in lively discussions, so if you’re unsure whether to break in or wait for a pause in the dialogue,Ěýlook at how others are handling itĚý(and how that’s being received). In some workplace settings, people are expected to simply speak up — and even speak across each other — to drive a discussion forward, although most people would consider this rude in other situations.
If you’re in a meeting where interruptions happen frequently and nobody seems bothered by it, that can be a signal for you to do in kind. Just be wary if the only person interrupting others is the boss. That’s a sure sign of aĚýpower-based double standard. In that case, the rules of engagement don’t apply equally to everyone, and the old hand-raise is still a solid fallback.
In these moments, those active listening skills can really pay off, as you can use facial expressions and body language to indicate you’d like to speak. If you’ve been making eye contact and engaging in nonverbal communication throughout the discussion, you’ll find it easier to nonverbally show that you have something to say, and earn a break to make your point.
In the early years of my career, I frequently worked with client teams at a large computer company in Texas. I discovered there the concept of “pre-wiring” workplace communication.
The idea here is preparation. You want to have a good idea ofĚýwhat’s going to happenĚýin a meeting. You also want to have a fair idea of how you’re going toĚýaccomplish what you want toĚýaccomplishĚýor at least get your point heard by the right people. “Pre-wiring” means youĚýtalk to a few key people in advance of the meetingĚýabout what the goals are, what they’d like to see happen, and how they think the conversation will go. This practice allows for any contentious issues to surface well in advance of the meeting so participants can eitherĚýresolve the contentionĚýbetween themselves beforehand or at least plan how they can address it during the meeting.
Pre-wiring also lets you share what you’d like to say in the meeting and get your colleagues’ feedback and suggestions to hone your points. In this way, you get the benefit ofĚýestablishing alliesĚýaround the table, which can bolster your confidence to speak. If possible, do this with at least one sympathetic senior leader who’ll be in the room, as they’ll be in a position to ensure you get a moment to speak your mind.
To build confidence in your office communication skills, particularly if you’re concerned about how your comments will be received, take a moment toĚýgather your thoughts before you speak. If you’ve been taking notes, jot down a couple of key ideas or phrases you intend to include.
I recommendĚýavoiding overly scripted commentsĚýbecause you want your remarks to fit the natural flow of the conversation, but it sometimes helps to tell the group that you’ve made a few notes and then overtly refer to them as you speak. This approach can be compelling in a meeting because it shows you’ve been actively listening, you’ve taken the time to organize your thoughts, and you aren’t just shooting from the hip.
I know I tend to lean in when someone in the room says, “I made a few notes while you were speaking.” It appeals to the vanity of the other person while sincerely framing the context of your comments.
Even highly qualified communicators suffer from occasionalĚýimpostor syndrome. I’ve worked with executives who have decades of experience behind them and still suffer from self-doubt in the workplace. (I daresay it can be a sign of healthy humility and self-awareness.) Before you go into a meeting, try taking a moment to reaffirm the value of your perspective and the expertise you bring.
Author and public speaking expertĚýĚýsuggestsĚýasking yourself, “Why me?”
“Answering this question helps you connect with a sense of purpose and builds your confidence,” . “It reminds you that you’re speaking up not to show off but because you truly care about the subject. It reminds you that your credibility doesn’t come solely from your title or years of experience but can also come from your commitment and passion.”
No matter how many years of experience you have, it helps to go through this exercise. Passion and commitment are essential factors in business, and while you may or may not have more experience and immediate expertise than others in the room,Ěýyou’re there because you’re qualified. Together with your sincere interest in the work and the purpose, that should be adequate bona fides to give voice to your ideas. Reminding yourself of who you are and why your perspective matters can help fuel your confidence to speak up.
As a professional in the world, your voice matters. If you’re unsure of yourself or uncertain how you’ll be received, the tips above can help. But if you really don’t feel that your voice or ideas will be welcomed at work, there may be aĚýlarger concernĚýat play.
If you’re comfortable speaking frankly with your direct manager, consider speaking honestly about your feelings andĚýseeking advice or support.
If you’re not comfortable speaking with your manager, think about speaking with anĚýHR professionalĚýto seek guidance and support. Many companies offer training and enablement for workers to help build their confidence in speaking and presenting — and if there’s really an issue in the culture that’s preventing you from communicating effectively, they may be able to help you address that as well.
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Robert Strohmeyer is a serial entrepreneur and executive with more than 30 years of experience starting and running companies. He has served in leadership roles at three successful software startups over the past decade, and his writing on business and technology has appeared in such publications as Wired, PCWorld, Forbes, Executive Travel, Smart Business, Businessweek and many others. He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.
Jessica Roper, °®ÎŰ´«Ă˝ director of Career Services, is a seasoned leader with over 15 years of experience in leadership within higher education. She has honed her expertise in student services and career development and is passionate about helping others discover and refine their skills.
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