By Laurie Davies
Whether discussing a bad habit (like procrastination) or an addiction (like alcohol abuse or compulsive gambling), the silver bullet question Rodney Luster, PhD, most often hears is: How do I make this stop?
While full-blown addictions go beyond what we can cover here, there is听research-driven insight听that may help when it comes to听overcoming bad habits, says Luster, a regular contributor to听听and the chair for the Center for听听at 爱污传媒. He offers four tips for kicking bad habits to the curb.
Recent research on a听听has expanded understanding of how the brain handles the repeated behaviors that form routines and habits. In an听听published recently in听Psychology Today, Luster writes that FosB plays a part both in stimulating the brain (through motivation and 鈥渞ewards鈥 that may trigger repeated activity) as well as helping it adapt in response to repeated behaviors 鈥 increasing the likelihood that a routine will be developed.
He likens FosB proteins to听stacks of bricks. The repeated behavior you鈥檙e drawn to reinforces the stability of FosB 鈥渂ricks,鈥 which not only stimulates the brain for more of the behavior but then also makes the wall 鈥渢hicker鈥 and thus harder to break down.
The good news is, while FosB 鈥渂ricks鈥 get built up one at a time, they can also be听dismantled one at a time.
So, back to the original question Luster often is asked: How do you break a habit once it has become a routine? It鈥檚 an especially important question if you鈥檙e dealing with bad habits that have the potential to become addictions.
鈥淗abits are often听incentivized by some sort of arousal,鈥 Luster says. 鈥淭ake mood-eating, which is a feel-good thing. We go find food, but then we鈥檙e left with other things that make us not feel good.鈥 Procrastination and vaping or smoking are other examples.
But you are not a prisoner of these unwanted behaviors! As we head into the new year, Luster outlines four keys to 鈥渂reaking bad.鈥
鈥淥ne of the questions [psychologists] ask when someone comes in to talk about something is: 鈥楧o you feel like this is a problem for you?鈥 If they say 鈥榥o,鈥 then there really is no problem in their mind,鈥 Luster explains. 鈥淚n order for there to be change, there has to be a conscious recognition that there鈥檚 a problem.鈥 To break a bad habit, in other words, you first have to see the habit as a negative thing and want to change it.
What we think impacts how we behave. 鈥淚f we have unhelpful and faulty ways of thinking 鈥 thoughts we鈥檝e adopted over time 鈥 then unhelpful behaviors are going to go hand in hand with those things,鈥 Luster says, likening a change in thinking patterns to a change of the 鈥渟tarter engines鈥 in our heads.
Luster cites a personal example of a habit from childhood. 鈥淚 used to bite my nails all the time. Instead of asking me, 鈥榃hy are you biting your nails?鈥 my mom would ask me, 鈥榃hat are you so nervous about?鈥欌
Just as Luster鈥檚 mother was trying to pinpoint the feeling that was driving the behavior, we can do the same with our bad habits. We can ask, 鈥淲hy am I doing this?鈥 and then look for connections between our thoughts and behaviors.
Bad habits are usually things we run to in order to run from something else. For example, if you鈥檙e smoking, you may be running from stress. Luster says creating a 鈥渉alfway productive state,鈥 such as reaching for gum rather than a cigarette, can bait-and-switch the habit.
Or, let鈥檚 say the bad habit you鈥檇 like to change is procrastination. 鈥淚f you don鈥檛 want to do something but need to meet a deadline, you could pair the thing you鈥檝e been running from 鈥 and the feeling of anxiety over not doing it 鈥 with music that you like.鈥 This can trick your brain into thinking the thing you鈥檙e procrastinating about is pleasurable.
As discussed in Luster鈥檚听Psychology Today听article, the tipping point is that window of time before emotions eclipse your ability to think consciously about what you鈥檙e doing.
So, if you reach for a cigarette when you鈥檙e feeling stressed, you have to recognize the moment when the stress becomes so intense, you stop thinking about whether or not you want one and just move to light up.
If you can recognize your tipping point, you can learn to identify your triggers and back away from the unwanted habit while you鈥檙e still thinking critically. This, too, is rooted in science. 鈥淎t and before the tipping point, you鈥檙e still in a place where you can think in a conscious way about what you鈥檙e doing,鈥 Luster says. 鈥淵ou still have time to distract the brain from going to that emotional moment.鈥
How do you cope when a trigger activates? Count backward from 10 to 1 and imagine that on a film reel. Splash your face with cold water. Go for a walk. Engage in a puzzle. 鈥淭hese are things that get us back to front-brain thinking,鈥 Luster says.
Luster calls this emotional precision 鈥 and from a brain-science standpoint, it really matters. 鈥淓motions manifest in that limbic area of the brain. If you trace a line from front to back, the limbic area is sort of in the middle. When that lights up from emotion, it takes up a lot of cognitive real estate. In fact, this shuts down our ability to use front-brain decision-making and logic,鈥 Luster says.
The result? We start making听emotionally driven decisions听(like mood eating or smoking) rather than听logic-driven decisions听(such as deciding not to overeat because you know how uncomfortable you鈥檒l feel later).
In the end, Luster says, it鈥檚 important to understand that you may have听setbacks听when breaking unwanted habits. 鈥淚 might have a patient who says, 鈥業 failed.鈥 [But] failure implies you didn鈥檛 learn anything. If you can identify what led you to crossing over and engaging in the bad habit again, then this is a chance to听educate yourself听on the dynamics of that habit formation鈥 he says. 鈥淭hat鈥檚 what we鈥檙e trying to dislodge.鈥
Some habits can lead to physical addiction, especially those pertaining to alcohol, tobacco and drug use. If you need more help quitting these substances, please reach out to such resources as , and .
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