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Meetings are ruining my life! 6 ways to make them better for everyone

Elizabeth Exline

Written by Elizabeth Exline

Jessica Roper

Reviewed by Jessica Roper, MBA,聽director of Career Services at 爱污传媒

Group of business people smiling at a meeting

If you heard that only is worthwhile, would you agree? Disagree? Wonder why you have so many meetings?

Whatever your response, you鈥檙e not alone. Meetings are like vaccines: not fun in the moment, but they keep your organization healthy.

Jessica Roper, Director of Career Services

鈥淚 often hear people complaining about meetings,鈥 says Jessica Roper, the director of Career Services at 爱污传媒. 鈥淚 think what creates so much frustration and dread is not always that the meetings are unnecessary, but rather that they are inefficient, unclear and poorly planned or managed.

鈥淭he good news is that, with even just a small amount of planning and intention, you can ensure your meeting is valuable and productive.鈥

Tips for planning better meetings

Before you can plan a good meeting, however, you have to ascertain whether a meeting is actually warranted.

There are various formulas for deciding this question. For example, the COO of Hugo, which produces an app designed to improve meeting performance, recommends limiting meetings to . If your meeting doesn鈥檛 focus on one of the three D鈥檚, consider another, asynchronous platform instead (e.g., chat, phone or email).

Of course, it鈥檚 possible, depending on your team and goals, that a necessary meeting doesn鈥檛 fall into one of those three categories. So, another way to frame this question might be to assume a certain mindset. Treat your potential meeting invitees as high-value clients or organizational leadership. Would you ask the CEO of your company to set aside 30 minutes for this meeting?

If so, schedule away! If not, open up your email.

Recurring meetings should not be immune to this evaluation either. Roper calls this 鈥渕eeting inertia鈥: when a once useful recurring meeting has lost its value but the organizer, whether out of laziness or obliviousness, keeps it on the calendar.

If you or your participants suffer from 鈥溾 (spending time processing or making peace with a bad meeting), it may be time to strike that one from the calendar.

But if your meeting is original, necessary and happening, here鈥檚 how to make it more effective.

1. Time it right

Not every meeting needs a full 30 or 60 minutes. Break free of old constraints! It鈥檚 fully acceptable to set a meeting for 15 or 20 minutes if that鈥檚 all you need.

鈥淚s there information you might be able to send out in an email prior to the meeting that could reduce the amount of time needed for your meeting?鈥 Roper asks.

Keeping things short and sweet can have another benefit: . Kind of like giving a task to a busy person if you want it done, positive pressure is a research-based concept in which people improve productivity when working within a time constraint.

Speaking of time, be sure to start and end punctually. No one likes waiting or being made late for the next meeting.

鈥淎s you review your meeting agenda items, consider how long you may need for each and try to stick to it, even if it means redirecting the conversation,鈥 Roper advises.

2. Be discriminating with the guest list

Like a good dinner party, who鈥檚 invited to a meeting can make or break the experience. Consider who鈥檚 absolutely necessary and invite them. If you need a contribution from someone who doesn鈥檛 otherwise need to be there, ask for it over email ahead of time.

Being exclusive can feel awkward in this age of transparency, but most people will appreciate not wasting their time attending a meeting they don鈥檛 have to. Having too many people at the table, especially if it鈥檚 a virtual one, can also diminish the quality. It鈥檚 one thing to share ideas and perspective with four or five people; quite another to get a word in with 10 or 15.

If you鈥檙e on the fence, consider recording the meeting and sharing it out to those nonessential colleagues with the invitation that they can attend future meetings if they鈥檇 find it helpful.

3. Encourage preparation

Coaxing the best out of your meeting participants starts with giving them clear direction on:

  • The purpose of the meeting
  • What you hope to achieve
  • How everyone can contribute

This approach may require everyone to do a little advance work or share information ahead of time. Be sure to outline these expectations if they will help you stay on track during your meeting.

鈥淚f you do one thing to improve your meetings, communicating the purpose would be the way to go as it allows participants to understand why they are attending and how they can contribute or prepare,鈥 Roper says.

4. Set an agenda

Similar to outlining the objective, setting an agenda for your meeting can help people arrive ready to participate.

Invite everyone to contribute to the agenda ahead of time to improve buy-in. Also, consider framing the agenda as a set of questions as opposed to topics anyone and everyone can discuss. The question format will not only help you fine-tune who鈥檚 invited but it will also clarify who鈥檚 expected to speak and why.

5. Take the reins

It can be tempting as the meeting leader to say your piece and then sit back and let everyone else take it from there. (Especially for introverts!)聽But your role doesn鈥檛 end until the meeting does.

As the meeting organizer, you have to engage everyone. 鈥淪ocial loafing,鈥 or coasting while others do the work in a group setting, is real. To counteract this tendency, keep the meeting small, encourage everyone to turn on cameras if it鈥檚 a remote meeting and call on specific people for feedback and insight.

Asking, 鈥淎ny questions?鈥 for example, is less likely to elicit a response than, 鈥淛ulia, what are your thoughts?鈥

On the flip side, some employees love to talk. As the meeting leader, it鈥檚 up to you to keep garrulous participants in check (and, when necessary, on mute).

6. End on a high note

When you have five minutes left on the clock, it鈥檚 time to wrap things up. Take this time to:

  • Summarize in a few points what was accomplished
  • Assign action items and next steps
  • Thank everyone for their time or insight

鈥淓nding with a note of appreciation or positivity is always beneficial,鈥 Roper observes. 鈥淵ou can even point out someone specifically who had good ideas or participation.鈥

Tips for being a better meeting participant

Not everyone can be a leader, and not all meetings will be your responsibility. But just because you鈥檙e not helming a meeting doesn鈥檛 mean you don鈥檛 have a role to play.

As an attendee, you should arrive prepared and on time. If you have materials to review or information to share, make sure you set aside time in the days leading up to the meeting to get ready.

This is part of being engaged, and it should carry you through the entire meeting. 鈥淭o be a highly engaged participant, ensure you鈥檙e actively listening and avoiding distractions,鈥 Roper advises. 鈥淭his might mean closing your laptop or turning off your phone to avoid checking email or notifications, or, if it鈥檚 a virtual meeting, turning on your camera.鈥

When (and how) to just say no

One of the best ways to stay excited about the meetings on your calendar may be to group them together. Creating chunks of time or even dedicated days for meetings allows you to focus on other tasks during those meeting-free slots of time.

鈥淚f you know that you鈥檙e at your best in the mornings,鈥 Roper explains, 鈥測ou could schedule meetings in a block during the mornings on two to three days of the week, leaving the rest of the days open for focused work or other tasks.鈥

This is helpful for leaders to keep in mind too. Ask your team for consensus about when recurring meetings work for everyone so you can all manage your schedules in ways that work for you.

Of course, even the best-laid meetings aren鈥檛 always necessary. If an invitation lands in your inbox, and you鈥檙e leaning toward declining, Roper recommends reaching out to the organizer to inquire about the meeting鈥檚 objective and gain clarification on the role you鈥檙e meant to play.

If it still feels unnecessary, Roper suggests offering an alternative like, 鈥淚 know this meeting covers an important topic. Could we consider sending a detailed email update instead, allowing everyone some additional time to complete their action items?鈥

And when the situation calls for a hard no, maybe soften it just a bit. The 鈥渘o, but鈥 format works well for this, Roper says. 鈥淚鈥檓 unable to attend, but I鈥檇 be happy to review the notes afterward鈥 is one example of how to do this.

The goal, after all, is not to be a yes person for every meeting that comes your way but to contribute meaningfully. Bringing intentionality to every meeting can ultimately help you save both your schedule and your sanity.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Elizabeth Exline has been telling stories ever since she won a writing contest in third grade. She's covered design and architecture, travel, lifestyle content and a host of other topics for national, regional, local and brand publications. Additionally, she's worked in content development for Marriott International and manuscript development for a variety of authors.

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ABOUT THE REVIEWER

Jessica Roper, 爱污传媒 director of Career Services, is a seasoned leader with over 15 years of experience in leadership within higher education. She has honed her expertise in student services and career development and is passionate about helping others discover and refine their skills.

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